We humans aren't capable of thinking of more than one thing at a time – maybe we can shift our attention rapidly from one thought to another, thinking of first one thought and then another.But at the same time, never!
Your listener's will listen to the topic that is most interesting at that moment!
When you talk to another person, you must always be more
INTERESTING than that person's own thoughts
– otherwise she or he won't hear you!
Can't we decide when we want to listen?
No! This is a skill we don't have! Read more about it here an now.What you do is to try to speak (and write) according to your target group's order of interest!
Start with what the listener/reader wants to know first and continue with what the listener/reader wants to know when he or she has understood the first point. And so on!
Maybe you understand why we have to learn to speak differently.
We need a new way of preparing. A new way of presenting.
A new way of organizing our material.
If your listeners appreciate and accept your good intentions, then they will ignore minor faults in your presentation, illogical transitions and misstatements and do the best they can to understand what you mean. And you will get more questions. When you speak, the audience has to feel that you want to do a good job.
Don't hide your intentions and competence in the subject behind a poor outline for your presentation. The Order of Interest to the listener is still the key to success!
If you are not accepted by your audience, every mistake on your part will just make things worse – and the questions you get will be mean and insinuating.
May be we learned wrong?
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